Highly sensitive people - we see you!

Happy summer friend ! 😊

How are you feeling ? Personally with more people out & about with work commitments on the side of studying while honoring passions -it can be a lot ! However , not impossible😊.   Looking after yourself simultaneously while keeping your daily routines is SO important, especially in the current season.

  Bringing us into the topic of this entry - being a Highly Sensitive Person (a.k.a HSP) ,what it means & the power plus responsibility of that.  'HSP' officially in the psychology world is defined as ‘a term for those who are thought to have an increased or deeper central nervous system sensitivity to physical, emotional, or social stimuli (also occasionally referred to as having sensory processing sensitivity, or SPS)’ ; terms that were first created in this way by psychologists Elaine Aron &Arthur Aron in the mid-1990s. Strengths& also challenges are both traits HSP’s work through such as loud noises, horror movies or upsetting news being experienced really powerfully.    HSP’s also are often misunderstood...

  Why does this happen ? Either because you aren’t in a supportive environment where you feel ‘held’ with your emotions and/or yourself /the other person/people in the environment don’t understand that HSP’s have serious strengths in their abilities. Phrases that will help you realise the environment won’t be helpful for you include being told you are ‘being unreasonable’, ‘over-sensitive’, ’too much’ etc. Definitely red flags and signs this company is not your tribe. Be wary of taking these negative words on as your internal truth -it is not true and let me tell you why through facts about the strengths in HSP’s.  I have to be honest with you, this is SO close to my heart as an HSP myself, for literally YEARS I was told and took on the belief (of people not in my tribe may I add!) that this was actually a weakness rather than a strength. The real STRENGTHS in HSP’s are the acute natural ability to feel others emotions around them, pick up tiny switches in even the tiniest verbal & non-verbal communication cues from others, high creativity levels & being highly in-touch with their personal emotional responses. This is literally a superpower meaning you tend to experience reality differently being an HSP from perhaps the other strong personality traits that exist. (I’d also like to point out being an HSP is literally that , a PERSONALITY TRAIT, not a diagnosis).         

  What can you do as an HSP to stay safe since over-stimuli can lead to regular overwhelm ? BOUNDARIES ! Learning how to set up empathetic boundaries means you will keep your emotional and mental energy intact so you can recharge between being in groups of company ,for example. Making time to recharge ,whatever that looks like for you in a healthy way, will help to keep your balance while also keeping a way to write down & therefore process /let go of feelings & thoughts that try to stay with you that aren’t yours. Being an HSP is a beautiful thing 😊 ,when you know what works for you to keep the self love & care as priority too ! Personally, therapy has really helped me tap into learning & practicing personal emotional & mental boundaries so my HSP brain doesn’t go into override 100% of the time (highly recommend therapy for everyone ,no matter who you are !)

   Whether you're an HSP yourself, know one or just want to be able to better support others who are, being understanding and open to conversations with those who experience it is helpful for better developing as more empathic people:).

   Until next time, stay safe, healthy ,happy & sending you love & light,

   Abs Xo


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